Ask them! As a parent, I have instilled in my children the values I hold dear. But how do we know our words are sinking in? We have regular conversations. There's always room to ask questions. We clarify things they don’t understand or have heard from another source (I’m looking at you, YOUtube). 

Sure, it’s a little uncomfortable to strike up a convo on tough topics. See if you can find ways to incorporate LGBTQ awareness into regular activities.

Social media works to your advantage on this one. I'll find a good conversation starter on Facebook, then tell whatever kid is in the room to “Come here; this is so cool!”. It might be this video by Lindsey Amer which explains what LGBTQ means and is part of a series called Queer Kid Stuff. Sure, they might roll their eyes and inform you, “I already know this, mom!” But you’ve let them know you’re open to talking about it in the future (and who knows if they already knew?!).

Any school-age child knows feedback isn't always nice and warm.  Peers and some of their teachers likely haven’t mastered the skill of being kind all the time. While I praise my daughter’s leadership and organization skills, her peers tell her she’s “bossy.” When I point out my son’s mensch-like qualities, he hears a “goody-two-shoes” jab by a classmate.

My point? Kids can handle a lot more than we give them credit for! Instead of going the roundabout way of discussing sexuality or gender identity, say it already! Not feeling your sea legs on this one? You need practice! The New York School of Medicine’s Child Study Center suggests practicing these conversations with your spouse, friend, or another family member.

“These are often difficult topics to broach, and speaking frankly with your child about sex and sexuality does not come naturally to most people. Your child will pick up on and respond to your level of comfort with the topic.” - NYU School of Medicine, Child Study Center

The practice won’t make perfect, but that’s ok! Your kids are bound to throw you a million curveballs in life, and this might be one of those times. Stay true to your values and be an LGBTQ ally. Because trying to be a good person is what matters. 

Whether you want your kids to be LGBTQ activists or have LGBTQ awareness, getting involved in local events can benefit everyone. Pride Month is a great time to get involved, and there are a lot of family friendly activities. Find a family friendly LGBTQ event near you here.

Remember that raising healthy, educated children takes a little effort and a lot of understanding. There will be hard conversations for sure, but, showing your kids that you’re willing to listen and respond to their needs makes all the difference in the world.