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How to organize kids toys is a topic that sounds basic. Buy some storage stuff and fill it up. You find yourself turning into a broken record of,
“Just clean it up!”
“This place is a mess!”
“Put your toys away when you’re done!”
Kids aren’t leaving a messy trail because they’re lazy slobs at heart. Nope. It’s something else.
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Children can’t organize toys for one (very good) reason.
Their stuff has nowhere to go.
I know, I know! You worked hard to organize your home. You outfitted play areas with toy boxes, organizing cubes, containers, and more. Closets, attics, and garages hold less-used toys.
Editor’s note: Since this post, I’ve discovered the Simplicity Parenting theory by Dr. Kim John Payne and have chosen to edit down our collection of toys to the basics. Read more about the Simplicity Parenting toy list here if you’re looking to decrease the number of toys in your home (and not just organize what you already have).
All you’re asking is that they throw it in a bin, line it up against the wall, or jam it in a closet when they’re done playing.
It’ll never work. (Sorry.)
Children need structure. Kids don’t know how to organize toys, which means you need “a place for everything and everything in its place.”
Which is a problem, because kids have so many toys it’s impossible to designate a spot for each one.
Kids need to learn to cope. But they can’t learn how to organize kids toys if there’s no real organizational strategy.
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I had it all planned out BC (Before Kids).
The coffee table had three large baskets underneath it. Bam! Built-in toy storage.
How to organize kids toys? Pshaw. I got this.
Epic fail. Even with sparingly filled baskets, toys were never put away. My daughter was used to putting her things away at preschool… why couldn’t she clean up at home?
The Sneaky Culprit
The containers! My child had trouble organizing her toys because she had trouble retrieving toys from the high-sided baskets.
I wasn’t organizing toys… I was hiding them.
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Out went the baskets. Now 5-7 toys take up residence under our coffee table. Not the prettiest site, but I prefer a few toys out over shoving them in a bin she can’t see or against a wall. There’s a small art table off to the side with a wall organizer that contains a small, rotating collection of art supplies.
One large play item stays out at a time (kitchen, dollhouse, playhouse, tent) and we rotate upon request or when something’s gone unused for too long.
A cabinet or storage boxes like these are filled with remaining toys. We organize toys by assigning each a designated spot. My daughter completes a toy exchange by switching out a “new” toy with a played-out “coffee table toy” when she’s ready to play with something different.
What If Your Child Forgets?
If she’s not playing with the current selection, I’ll take the lead and complete a toy rotation based on what I see her using or talking about. Older kids can do it themselves. You can get kids to organize toys.
You just have to put most of the toys away to give them a chance to succeed.
It works like a charm.
Every time your child has to throw unrelated toys together it undermines their ability to clean up.
Teach kids to appreciate their belongings by giving every item a home. Whether you have a 7-bedroom home or studio apartment, kids need to work with the space they have and so do we.
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Some toys that benefit from a “dump it in” mentality:
Legos® or building sticks like these
dolls and accessories
dress up play (this is our fave line)
collections of toys that are often mixed
I’ve found we don’t need every piece every time.
Example: My daughter recently received a 75-piece magnetic princess play set. Score! She loves it, but 75 pieces for a 3-year-old? Wayyyyy too much. I leave out 25 pieces and rotate them. Less mess, more play.
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There’s no easy way to say this so I’m just going to rip the Band-Aid® off.
Keep your child’s favorite toys. Don’t learn how to organize kids toys they don’t even like. Get rid of the rest.
Yes, giving stuff away that you or someone you love spent hard-earned money on is hard. It sucks. You’re worried you’ll offend someone. You’re worried your child might want to play with it next week.
I get that you don’t want to throw it all away.
Really, I get it.
But you work hard and care for your home. It’s not your job to deal with a houseful of guilt and mess.
It’ll be tough to weed out and organize toys. My advice is to involve the kids when you can.
Tips For How To Organize Kids Toys (Older Kids):
- Prepare the space where toys will be taking up residence. We use an old armoire/tv cabinet. Low-sided baskets like these and trays (love this one) are always helpful for storing items with smaller pieces.
- Open up a little. Let your kids know how draining it is to look at all the stuff all the time. Tell them you want to feel happier and spend more time with them and less time cleaning. One way to do this is to organize toys. They’ll whine, offer to help clean, promise to put things away, and try to manipulate you. They’re lying. Don’t fall for it.
- Empower your child. Offer up the storage space and organize toys in one sitting. It’s up to them what stays. Stick around to help facilitate the cleaning, but be like Switzerland. Just stay out of it. Help them, but don’t try to sway their decision.
- Let them fill up their space with their favorites and donate/sell the rest. If your child is very attached to possessions, passing along directly to families in need will be your best bet. Have them come with you to drop off donations. It makes a difference.
Younger kids are a bit easier. I cleaned out everything I didn’t want to interact with or read (yes, you read that right!), then watched my daughter for a bit. I noticed what toys she never reached for and got rid of them. A few I put away, knowing she was too young for them. That’s how we organize toys.
The rest went to friends and donation. Even gifts.
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Touchy subject, right? Truly, I feel your pain. But gifts are not obligations. They’re considerations. And if someone’s laying a guilt trip on you because you donated a gift that’s no longer used? Shame on them. They’re the ones with the problem – not you.
Grandparents are often offended. It’s understandable. Explain you just can’t handle the amount of stuff. That there is so much stuff your child can’t even play with all of it.
Ask them how much they had growing up?! This much?? Stress that you appreciate their gifts and your child has kept their favorites.
Many families find creating an online wishlist (Amazon.com is a great place to store the list) helps. I don’t, but I do make a point of telling gift-buyers what my daughter really wants. Rude? Maybe. But I don’t expect gifts. If they want to give my daughter something, I’m happy to point them in a direction she’ll enjoy. If they want to brainstorm on their own, awesome! Everyone understands we won’t keep it if it’s not a hit.
Decreasing toy quantity decreases stress and increases attention span and care. It’s not some crazy parenting technique. It’s science. Too many choices make us less able to choose. Decision Fatigue is a real and growing problem.
There’s no big trick. How to organize kids toys is about eliminating everything that doesn’t get used often, is broken, or is missing pieces, and keeping out a small rotation of loved toys.
Drastically reducing the number of toys will result in a more engaged and careful child, who appreciates their belongings (most of the time).
Not to mention it makes holiday and birthday times MASSIVE hits! 😉
I can tell we have too many toys – especially after birthdays and holidays – when toys start piling up and getting shoved on top of each other. We know it’s time to weed out the old and make room for the new.
Remeber, a place for everything and everything in its place. That’s how to organize kids toys.
That’s how to get kids to clean up.
Take a day and go for it. We figured out how to organize kids toys and it works!
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Lots of good tips. Maybe big "toy boxes" should be reserved for big items – big toys, bedding, etc.
Definitely! Great idea, Nancy.
Nice blog, you got pretty cool toys for kids.
Very Informative and useful… Keep it up the great work.
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I guess you CAN have too many toys, right? It does get a bit overcrowded in the play room when the toys are too many and it also takes up space. Nice idea that you were able to make tips for older kids, I would also assume that they have a different approach to their toys as well compared to younger kids. Thank you for such an informative post!
Kids are growing up fast, and toys will be no use for them in a few years anyway. I would prefer to donate all the old toys to kids who need them instead.
Yes, Richard!! 🙂
Needed toy mess is a up hill battle at times. You have covered very well in details. I liked the exchange idea you listed here.
Ashley, you absolutely nailed this. It is so energy sucking to have the put-up-your-toys battle, and it also robs me of some of the fun time I want to have with my son and turns it into an inevitable battle. Confession: I have totally started hiding books that I find annoying to read no matter how much my son loves them, I just can’t bring myself to read them again! So I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one. I really like the toy exchange idea! Thanks so much!
So glad I’m not the only one hiding books I’m sick of reading! 🙂 And I love reading.
The toy exchange really does work. The problem is we all just have so much stuff that the kids can’t even play with their own toys anymore. I didn’t want that to happen. And as much as I’ve tried, we still have too much! But toy cleanup is one battle I’m not having.
Thanks for reading. I’m a fan of your blog, btw, and so inspired by your message to parents about setting an example by leading the life you want to live… not the one you think you should live.
Ah… should… the ever-inspiring guilt trip word 🙂 Thanks for reading!
Thanks so much for the kind words Ashley!
Parenting, while an amazing and wonderful experience, is such a challenge, particularly because almost everyone we know thinks they are an expert on the subject while I very much feel like I’m just winging it (like trying to figure out the balance between having “enough” toys and too many such that they are more a source of frustration than fun).
So, it is great to have a place like your blog where 1) it’s ok to admit that we aren’t perfect and we don’t know everything; and 2) the stories and ideas are thoughtful and honest, and the conclusions and advice aren’t based on “well, my kids lived through childhood so it must have been fine” but instead on experience coupled with a view towards making happy, healthy, and strong adults out of our wee ones.
So thanks so much!
You hit the nail on the head. We’re not experts, but we are allowed to have expectations and pursue our own versions of success and happiness. I started this site because I hate (yes, hate) the idea that marketing gets to tell us what we need. Which is, of course, always more.
Thanks again and if you ever want to work on a guest post on LAP, let me know! Would love to share your thoughts on stepping back from the rat race and embracing your kids for who they want to be.